I realize my title is a little harsh to say, but hear me out a second 🙂
“Love is a variety of different feelings, states, and attitudes that ranges from interpersonal affection. It can refer to an emotion of a strong attraction and personal attachment. It can also be a virtue representing human kindness, compassion, and affection.” (Wikipedia.org)
“Love is a variety of different feelings, states, and attitudes that ranges from interpersonal affection.” When you fall in love with someone, you don’t just get the “love”, but a packet of feelings : Jealousy, Paranoia that leads to over protective, Fear (of losing), Happiness but also Sadness. You can’t purely love someone with just Love.
And that is what you do to your life when you love it. When you love your life, there are certain of feelings that follows.
Jealousy. You begin to compare your life with your friend’s life, your cousin’s life and even some stranger’s life. Looks like your life is just not good enough to live in but yet you still say that you love your life 🙂
Paranoia and Fear. Usually when everything is getting great, there is one thought that cross your mind in the middle of the night before you catch your sleep, “What if everything changes?” You begin to fear that your “just getting great” life will be just temporary and change to the worse. This thought is killing for some people. Me? no longer feeling the fear of changes, more of facing the changes now.
“It can refer to an emotion of a strong attraction and personal attachment.” When you love someone you have this strong feeling inside you that makes you so excited and happy. I bet that someone fits your profile perfectly and not to mention that he/she is amazingly awesome, well at least for you. In this case your someone is ultimately attractive, what happens when that person is no longer attractive? He gets old, grumpy, sick and barely to be kidding with. Real love won’t mind, the question is do you have that love that will keep you stay even when he is no longer your attractive someone you met?
Life is a long time. You don’t know what will happen tomorrow. When everything falls into places, it is so easy to love our life, right? Let’s think about when life offers you your ultimate fear, well let’s say Sickness. That makes you even don’t want to get up in the morning, makes your days just so hard for you to make, or even when life offers you to see your most love ones suffer, Do you will still love your life?
“It can also be a virtue representing human kindness, compassion, and affection.” Love usually have reasons behind it. We love a kind, gorgeous person because his kindness and affection, but we can also love a scumbag that often betrayed us – i know you can name your friend or even yourself, for a reason. No matter who you love, there is always a reason behind it.
You can’t love your life for just a good reason. No matter how much you live your life well, there will always be something that went out of your way, And when you love your life only because it’s good, you won’t be loving it again when you find your life is not like what you want. People who love their life because of the good reason usually is the weakest person when struggling in troubles.
So, what? If i don’t love my life, do i have to hate it? No. You have to value it. Valuing every moment of your life because moments only comes once.
“Value = consider (someone or something) to be important or beneficial; have a high opinion of.” To value your life first you have to realize that your life is important no matter how good or bad it is. When you are thinking that your life is not important to you right now, remember your life may be important to your friends, relatives, and many people out there that still need your help.
The only thing that you have to do when you are under burden is not to blame your life, because life is not about fair or not, life is neutral and blaming it won’t get you anywhere beside of deeper to your burden. So, my advice to you is value your life! Value every breath you take for free, every sound of bird chirping, every smell of the trees around you, and the most important thing is value every person around you that loves you, supports you and always there for you.
There are hard times for me and even now i am facing such a hard times that sometimes i can see death is there waving and tells me to choose him and everything will end. But hey, i know my God loves me so much that He gives me these hard times just because He wants to bless me more.
But most important for me that there are people around me that do not stop supporting me and loving me. Everyday i wake up, i remember these people, i value every single breath that i still catch for free, for every love that i feels and i know even if i have given just a short time to live, i am giving thanks for the chance to feel the true love that they are giving me.
Anyway, you only lives once 🙂
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2 thoughts on “[ENG] Don’t love your life !”
After i read your writing, i recall what CEO of General Electrics, Handry Satriago, said when the doctors said that he cannot walk again for the rest of his life, he said,”blaming makes me weak. What i have to do is, accept it and bounce back!” Nice sharing, btw. 😉